Self Help Summaries

10 Keys To A Powerful Personality - Brian Tracy

2009-07-06T20:29:00.009-04:00

"10 Keys To A Powerful Personality"

(This was actually a video program)

By Brian Tracy

1. CLARITY

-Having the ability to focus.

-Do what's hard and necessary, not what's easy and fun.

-Be decisive.

-Focus on results not activities - Ask yourself, "What results are expected of me?"

-List your goals - set your goals high.

-Review your goals often.

-Every morning rewrite your major goals in the first person singular.

-Every evening review the day and ask yourself: "What have I done right today?" and "What would I do differently if I had today to do over again?"

-Always speak to the point, don't fear offending others.

2. COMPETENCE

-Make commitment to become excellent in what you do.

-Excellence yields opportunities. The market pays for excellence.

-20/80 rule: 20% of the salespeople make 80% of the sales.

-Hard work yields improvement - The harder your work, the better you get.

-Do your best every time out and always strive to do better.

-How to tell if you are excellent? = "How many job offers have you gotten this month?"

3. CONCENTRATION

-The ability to focus clearly.

-Key to effectiveness = Always work on the top 20% on your list of things to do.

-Best use of your time = "What is the most valuable use of my time, right now?"

-Develop a sense of urgency - Do it now!

-Complete each task that you begin.

4. COMMON SENSE

-Think things through before acting - Action without thinking, is the cause of every failure.

-Listen to your intuition.

5. CREATIVITY

-Tap your creative potential - The hallmark of creativity is curiosity.

-All changes come with the input of new information - Always look for better ways.

-Ask questions continuously - Offer the service or product just a little better.

-Have one new idea a day.

6. CONSIDERATION

-Relationships determine success - Having the ability to get along with others.

-Constantly develop your people skills - Increase your vocabulary and learn to listen.

-Most firings result from personality problems.

-Low self esteem causes inability to get along with others.

7. CONSISTENCY

-Dependable work is superior - Be consistent in your work.

-Guard your integrity.

-Be consistent in your personal development.

8.COMMITMENT

-Make a commitment to your family, friends, company, boss and job.

-Make a commitment to yourself, your career and your success.

-Make a commitment to your goals.

9.COURAGE

-Always confront your fears.

-Always dare to go or move forward.

-If you're not a little scared, you're not trying hard enough.

-Practice continuous failures, until your goals are achieved.

-There is no security in life; just opportunity.

-Always persist despite adversity - be unstoppable - never quit!

10. CONFIDENCE

-Confidence is the result of all the other 9 keys.

-Self doubt can paralyze you.

-Self confidence begets achievement.

-Behave confidently; act the part until you feel it.

Interesting fact about Brian Tracy: After dropping out of school before graduation, Tracy spent several years as a laborer. He then got a job on a tramp steamer and traveled around the world for eight years, eventually visiting more than eighty countries on five continents. Since he could no longer find a job as a laborer, he went into sales, struggling at first. He decided to ask other successful salesmen and then emulate them. By the end of his first year, he attained the status of top salesman. After his second year, he was made a Vice President in charge of 95 people. At the time he was only 25 years old. (Taken from Wikipedia - here is the link)

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How To Be A No Limit Person - By Wayne Dyer

2009-06-30T22:07:00.013-04:00

"How To Be A No Limit Person"

(This was actually a video program)

By Wayne Dyer

-Deficiency motivation = "What I am I don't like." Always try to get some place else. Always want more.

-No limit people never say, "I don't have enough."

-Must me flexible and willing to change - able to handle all.

-No limit people accept themselves for what they are.

-Learn to enjoy everything - a way of thinking.

-99% of me is intangible; conscious awareness; invisible.

-See myself as love and only that to give away.

-Stress, fear, embarrassment, etc. only comes out of me if i have it inside.

-No limit people celebrate the lessons in life.

-No one can hurt my feelings without my consent - that's just their opinion.

-There are problems in relationships - just the way it is; two people with different ideas about life and that's ok.

Beliefs of a No Limit person:

1. Quality rather than appearances - What I think of me is more important than what others think of me.
-Independent of others opinions - don't need approval of anyone.

2. Ethics rather than rules - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Golden rule.

3. Knowledge instead of achievement - Do what makes sense to me.

4. Personal authority rather than being an authoritarian - No need to dominate anyone.
-Have inner power - know thyself
-What you put out is what you get back.

5. Serenity instead of acquisitions - inner peace; enjoy everything; attitude.
-Be love - forgiveness is the key.

Interesting fact about Wayne Dyer: A literary agent persuaded Dyer to package his ideas in book form, resulting in Your Erroneous Zones; although initial sales were thin, Dyer quit his teaching job and began a publicity tour of the United States, doggedly pursuing bookstore appearances and media interviews ("out of the back of his station wagon", according to Michael Korda, making the best-seller lists "before book publishers even noticed what was happening"^[4]), which eventually led to national television talk shows including Merv Griffin, The Tonight Show, and Phil Donahue^{(Taken from Wikipedia - here is the link)}NEXT POST: 10 Keys To A Powerful Personality - Brian Tracy

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The Confidence Course - Walter Anderson

2009-06-28T21:52:00.005-04:00

"The Confidence Course"

By Walter Anderson

Seven Steps to Self-fulfillment:

1. Know who is responsible - I am responsible

2. Believe in something big

3. Practice tolerance - you'll like yourself a lot more

4. Be brave - courage is acting with fear

5. Love someone - you should know joy

6. Be ambitious

7. Smile

-When pushing past your comfort zone, ask yourself, "what's the worst thing that can happen?"

-Be like one of those plastic dogs with the moving head when you listen to others.

-Focus on what you'd like to learn from them.

-The other person is probably more interested in what he or she has to say.

-Focus on the solution, not the problem.

-The only reason to compete is to improve yourself.

-What I am is who I am when I am alone.

-Adults see beyond themselves.

-When we cling like a child to some false notion, however secure it makes us feel, we not only retard our personal growth but also make it far more difficult and dangerous to take the risks we need to build self confidence.

-Remember to spend the first minute or two putting the other fellow at ease.

-True success is always the last of a string of failed attempts to get it right.

-What have I learned so that I can do better next time?

-Pressure comes from the inside, not from the outside, and it stems from a fear of failure.

-Good preparation reduces anxiety and the odds.

-It's not the joke that makes you laugh, it's the timing.

-Pauses are critical to effective speaking.

-Confidence by definition is an attitude.

- The world will remain the same; how you see the world will be different.

-He who angers you, conquers you.

-What a hopeless, futile task I had taken on: to control the world around me. What I really needed to control was me, and no one else.

-The only sure way to win a fight is to avoid one.

-I believe that if you take the third step, actually decide to forgive, it should be to release yourself from your own anger and not to free from the guilt the person who hurt you.

-Human beings tend to become what they imagine themselves to be: If you see yourself as confident, you become confident.

-Bad things do happen; how we respond to them defines our character and the quality of our lives.

-Although I may not be able to control the world around me, I can control me.

-It is perfectly healthy for you to desire more for yourself, we are meant to grow.

-Testing ourselves against the unknown, proving to ourselves what we can do, building our confidence by facing uncertainty and prevailing, these are the actions that build self confidence.

-Taking a risk is necessary both to grow and develop a pattern for success.

-You know where you are, it is time.

-Fix the image in your mind.

-Just what is the greatest risk of all? It is to be vulnerable, to allow others to see us as we really are.

Interesting fact about Walter Anderson: Walter Anderson was editor of Parade magazine for 20 years and is currently chairman and CEO of that publication. (Taken from bookreporter.com - here is the link)

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Notes From A Friend - Tony Robbins

2009-06-27T21:11:00.007-04:00

"Notes From A Friend"

By Tony Robbins

-The power within you can change anything in your life literally in a matter of moments. All you must do is unleash it.

-Positive thinking alone is not enough to turn your life around. You must have some strategies, some step by step plans for changing how you think, how you feel, and what you do every single day.

-The only thing that's necessary to make this work for you right now is to begin to believe that it is possible to change. The past does'nt matter. Whatever has'nt worked in the past has nothing to do with what you'll do today. What you do right now is what will shape your destiny.

-"I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward." Thomas Edison

-The key to success is to decide what's most important to you and then take massive action each day to make it better, even when it does'nt look as if it's working.

-Personal power means being persistent in taking action; every time you do something, you learn from it, and you find a way to do it better next time.

-Colonel Sanders was refused 1,009 times before he heard his first yes.

-No problem is permanent. No problem affects my entire life. This too shall pass if I continue to take massive, positive, constructive action.

-Massive, consistent action with pure persistence and a sense of flexibility in pursuing your goals will ultimately give you what you want, but you must abandon any sense that there is no solution.

- We all have problems, disappointments and frustrations, but it's how we deal with our setbacks that will shape our lives more than anything else we do.

-The power of decision is the power of change.

-Ultimately, it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny.

-"He never let problems or circumstances get in his way. He decided that there is always a way to succeed if you're really committed." Soichiro Honda

-The only way to change your life is to make a real decision.

-There are no failures in life. As long as I learn anything from something, then I've succeeded.

-"Faith is to believe what you do not yet see; the reward for this faith is to see what you believe." St Augustine

-You can choose what to believe about yourself, and these beliefs will determine the actions you take.

-Whatever you focus on, at any point in time,will be what's real to you. Your reality, or your perception of reality.

-The reality is that whatever you focus on you move toward. Focus on where you want to go.

-Whatever you think about most you'll experience.

-Ask yourself empowering questions.

-"Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7

-We all must realize that emotion is created by motion.

-The harder you prepare, the luckier you seem to get.

-The reason we set goals is to give our lives focus and to move us in the direction we would like to go.

-Winning starts with beginning.

-Before something happens in the world, it must first happen in your mind.

-Whenever you set a goal, take immediate action to support it.

-Starting right now, decide to use all the tools in this book so that you will not dwell on any rotten thoughts or emotions for the next ten days.

Interesting fact about Tony Robbins: "Robbins started his career promoting seminars for Jim Rohn, and then started teaching neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) after learning it from NLP co-founder John Grinder. Grinder encouraged Anthony Robbins to look into the firewalking experience. In 1983, Robbins located Tolly Burkan and learned how to firewalk from him.^[7] Robbins then added firewalking to his seminars, which enabled him to gain media coverage and launch his celebrity status." (Taken from Wikipedia - here is the link)

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A Better Way To Live - Og Mandino

2009-06-26T20:48:00.011-04:00

"A Better Way To Live"

By Og Mandino

Seventeen Rules To Live By:

1. Count your blessings.

2. Today, and every day, deliver more than you are getting paid to do.

3. Mistakes are life's way of teaching you.

4. Always reward your long hours of labor and toil in the very best way, surrounded by your family.

5. Build this day on a foundation of pleasant thoughts.

6. Never boast; always let your actions speak for you.

7. Never whine; each day is a special gift from God.

8. Never clutter your days and nights with menial unimportant things.

9. Live this day as if it will be your last.

10. Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead at midnight.

11. Laugh at yourself and at life. Never take life too seriously.

12. It doesn't matter what others think; only what you think of yourself.

13. Welcome every morning with a smile.

14. You will achieve your grand dream a day at a time. Set goals for each day.

15. Never allow anyone to rain on your parade.

16. Search for the seed of good in every adversity.

17. Realize that true happiness lies within you. Look inside yourself.

"Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." - Aristotle

"The purpose in life is to be happy." - Dalai Lama

Interesting fact about Og Mandino: "Because Mandino was color-blind, it was necessary for his wife, Bette, to write down the color of each pair of pants on the zipper area and mark his ties with numbers, before leaving for any speaking engagements and book tours. Bette also had to put a stack of cards inside Mandino's suitcase to help him identify which pair of pants would match with his ties." (Taken from Wikipedia - here is the link)

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